Comments on: Logistics and Statistics

By: Stacey Stern

Stacey Stern — Fri, 16 Oct 2009 17:19:54 +0000

Thanks for sharing, Amy. I remember several years ago talking to a doctor here at work about his wife’s difficult pregnancy (she’d had couple previous miscarriages too) and he told me that a pregnancy without complications (although not necessarily miscarriage) was the exception, not the rule. I remember being surprised by this – I had no idea.

Hope your recovery is quick.

By: Colleen

Colleen — Fri, 16 Oct 2009 14:41:58 +0000

Thinking about you this weekend. I hope everything goes as smoothly as possible.

By: Amy

Amy — Thu, 15 Oct 2009 22:10:43 +0000

Linda, I like that suggestion!

Jenn, that statement about knowing only one woman who finished having children without a single stillbirth or miscarriage is exactly what I meant about the stories coming out of the woodwork. You just don’t really get it until you talk to people.

Kim, I’m not sure about the anesthesia, but the doctor said I would be “pretty much out of it.” I was too shocked to ask more at the time, but I don’t like the idea of twilight sleep so I’m going to ask for general.

It sounds like there is a great range of possible pain and after-effects. I’m glad this is happening on a weekend and Adam is able to stay with me through the whole thing. Thanks for your support.

By: Kim

Kim — Thu, 15 Oct 2009 17:57:08 +0000

I had a ‘natural’ miscarriage and it was very painful. And they did check to make sure everything was cleared out (luckily, yes). Will they put you out or do a twilight? Out sounds like it would be better. I hope you get to rest a lot over the weekend.

By: Rational Jenn

Rational Jenn — Thu, 15 Oct 2009 17:14:10 +0000

I hope things go well tomorrow. When I had my miscarriage at 10 weeks, I ended up “going naturally” the morning of the scheduled D&C. Because I had taken that pill they give you to prep for the procedure, it was really painful (it’s painful anyway, of course, but the drugs didn’t help). But I wasn’t in too much pain after it was over. Just like a bad period. I’m not sure if I would gave preferred the D&C over what happened.

And you’re absolutely correct that miscarriage is so common, especially as we get older. Even younger women have miscarriage rates around 25-33%. I found some comfort in knowing that this was nature’s way of taking care of something that wasn’t right. I can only think of one woman who is finished having children who has not had a miscarriage or stillbirth. I hated joining the club myself, but I also was glad not to be alone.

I’m so glad you’re sharing this and wish I had been able to do it at the time, and during my fretful early pregnancy with my last child. Thank you. I’m thinking of you and your family!